It’s such a simple phrase but the power behind it is such a game changer. I was watching The Biggest Disease Affecting Humanity: I’m Not Enough, an A-Fest video on YouTube by Marisa Peer, and it is her goal to spread this message. (click here for video) I never realized that as much as I clear out the old messages,adding in this one message would change everything for me.
Everyday we wake up and look for validation from everyone but ourselves. I remember as a teenager I looked at models in magazines and found everything wrong with me instead of everything beautiful about them. I find myself judging therefore I expected to be judged. I myself worried if I was lovable, am I doing everything right and if I am worthy of my own existence. That’s a lot of worrying!
Instead of waiting for someone else to give me a gold star, now I’m giving myself one. Actually a few. I’m the first person in the morning to tell me I love you. I’m the first one to forgive me for anything I’ve done. I’m the one to tell me that my butt doesn’t look big in my jeans. I am the one responsible for validating me. I and I alone. That was something I was willing to accept.
In the Be+Do+Have paradigm, we are taught to Be first in order to Do. Be the person you are setting a goal to be. Don’t wait for the goal to happen. If you are operating from a state of being, and not “faking it”, then you will do whats needed from the correct mindset to achieve the results you want. A.k.a. the have.
I bring that up to say this. Stop waiting for permission to love yourself and be yourself. Be you. Simply, be you. I’m a 9-to-5er chained to a cubical for 38.75 hours per week. I operate from the mindset of an entrepreneur and a writer. I work on my craft during my holy hour and during my breaks at work. I get asked if I’m doing homework, or I get shunned because I’m not participating in the political conversation.
I can say this now because in the beginning I felt awkward being different. I worried that my dreams and goals were so different from theirs, that I would be alone. Now I cherish that alone time. Three hours of my day are dedicated to my goal of that exit interview.
As Marisa suggested, I wrote I am enough on my mirror. I also have my son reminding himself when he is facing the challenges of his Audio Processing Disorder. Sometimes we all need to remind ourselves that it is not the opinions of others that decide who we are. It is still our responsibility. Face your challenges telling yourself you are enough. Your energy changes. Your confidence rises. Write it on your mirror. Say it while you are in the shower. Now go create the life you want. Permission not required, but if you did need it, here you go.